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I feel like I shouldn’t jinx it by saying this, but I’m doing pretty well with my weight loss on The 1:1 Diet by Cambridge Weight Plan. It helps that I know it works – I got to my goal weight before we had IVF and maintained it until I got pregnant. I can get back there again now. And now that I’m a Cambridge Weight Plan Consultant, I’m helping other people lose weight with The 1:1 Diet, too.
But, historically, I get to a certain point and then I mess it all up. Usually, it’s after I’ve lost 1st. That’s why I feel comfortable talking about it now, because I’ve lost double that so far. But I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately, and I think reflection is a really important part of growth, so I thought I’d talk about it today.
Self-sabotaging my diet
For almost my entire adult life, I’ve either been on a diet, or gaining weight after losing it on a diet. The only exception was when I lost weight with CWP the first time round in 2012. I maintained for 3years, until I fell pregnant in 2015. Obviously, the IVF was a pretty good motivation to keep the weight off.
I don’t have that kind of motivation this time. Becoming a CWP Consultant helps, because I obviously need to practice what I preach, but it’s not quite the same as the motivation of wanting to become a mum.
Why do I do it?
Every time I’ve been guilty of self-sabotaging my diet, I’ve asked myself this question. I’ve never managed to come up with a good answer. I think part of me doesn’t think I can succeed, so I just give up, before I can fail. I know… it doesn’t make sense, does it?
There’s also part of me that starts seeing the results and decides I’ve just done enough. So, I celebrate by eating. A lot. It’s daft, really. I start seeing positive results… so I undo them all. Good Job, Becca.
I don’t think I’m the only person who gets in the way of their own success
Actually, I think it’s fairly common. Maybe you’re reading this, nodding your head and thinking “I do that, too!”. So how do we stop doing it?
I’m determined to succeed this time. I’m going to get to my goal weight by April 2019 and I’m going to stay there.
I know that The 1:1 Diet works. And it’s not just a quick fix. The weight won’t just come back on when I get to my goal weight. Not unless I put it back on. I mean, let’s face it. I put the weight on in the first place. That was my fault. And losing weight is down to me, too. And so is keeping it off. I have to take control of that.
This is a difficult time of year to diet
I’ve talked about dieting in December fairly recently. For me at least, it’s a classic time for self-sabotaging my diet. I convince myself that there’s no point trying to lose weight, because I’ll just put it all back on over Christmas anyway. As if I don’t have any control over that. As if the fat I’ve lost is just hiding behind a door somewhere, waiting to jump back on my body on Christmas Day.
I know I won’t be on plan on Christmas Day. In fact, there are 5 days in December that I know I won’t be on plan for. I’m OK with that, because I’ve planned for it. But there are 31 days in December. That leaves 26 days where I can (and will) be on plan, so there’s no reason why I can’t lose weight overall in December. Sure, I might not lose as much weight in December as I would in any other month, but I don’t need to go into 2019 heavier than I am now. And I don’t intend to.
This is my biggest problem when it comes to self-sabotaging my diet. Excuses. I’m great at making excuses. I’m so good at it, I actually convince myself that my excuses are good ones. “Oh, there’s no point getting weighed this week. I’ll just get back on track and weigh in next week.” Does that one sound familiar? I can’t be the only person who’s used it.
It’s actually one of my favourites, I’ve used it so often. It’s a great way to avoid facing your Consultant when you’ve had a bad week, right?
Except that your Consultant only wants to support you. And your weight has no personal bearing on them. They won’t judge you. The only person really affected by your weight gain is you. So the best thing to do is just get back on the scales. By avoiding the scales, you don’t make the weight gain go away. If you really can skip the weigh in and get back on track, fine. Good for you. Skipping the scales won’t do you any harm and you’ll have a lovely weight loss waiting for you the following week.
If I sound bitter and jealous, it’s because I am.
I am not one of those people who can just skip the weigh in and get back on track. I need the accountability of getting on those scales and owning whatever number I see there. That’s what’s different this time. I’m not saying I haven’t missed a weigh in or two – it’s harder now that I’m seeing clients of my own, plus blogging and looking after the twins. But I’m self-aware enough to know that it’s not going to help my weight loss journey to pretend that I haven’t had a bad week, if I have.
So I’m going to carry on getting weighed by my Consultant, at least every 2 weeks, to make sure I stay on track and achieve my goal. I’m going to cut out the excuses and own my slip ups and take control of my weight loss journey.
No more self-sabotaging my diet. No more giving up before I’m done. And maybe I’ll never be “done”, because maintenance takes work too, and I definitely intend to maintain my weight loss long term.
Are you guilty of self-sabotage? Are you sick of letting yourself down? Let’s make a change in 2019 and end the cycle.