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We all have issues in life, that much is for sure. However, it’s really not that easy to just wish them away or make things better. Sometimes, the most difficult things in life take a lot of work. And they take time to get better too. Whether you’re dealing with things that affect your mental health or you’re going through a rough time with your relationships, you can feel alone, stressed, and like you’re never going to get better. But you will. We can all start to get better if we commit to making it happen. Because we all deserve to be happy. And sure, you can put on a front and pretend that things are fine. But that’s the problem with playing happy families – nothing’s actually fixed. Instead, you might like to actually work on fixing things for real. And here’s how you’re going to do it.
Accept The Situation
To start with, you need to be able to accept the situation for what it is. This means that you need to admit to yourself that you’re struggling. That your marriage is struggling. Or whatever is going on. If it is a relationship thing, then you need to talk to your partner and see if you can start to fix things.
Talk About It
The next thing that you might want to do here, is open up. One of the best ways to deal with our feelings is to talk about it. So, find a good therapist that you feel comfortable with and get talking. If you want to do couples counseling, you might even want to get someone that is specialist in that field too.
Consider Your Options
But then also, you might want to consider some of the options that are in front of you here. Because there are always avenues for you to explore. Maybe you want to work on this alone, using the points from therapy? Or maybe you want to just go it alone off the bat if you think you can do it? But, you may also need to turn to resources, such as family law professionals, to help you. It all depends on what the idea of fixing things looks like to you.
Change Your Mindset
And if you really want this to work, then you need to change your mindset. Because your mind is a powerful thing. And if you can make sure that you’re feeling positive, you’re open to change, and you’re moving forward, you’ll be in the best place to start fixing things.
Act, Think, Assess
However, you do also need to accept that this isn’t going to be easy. Not will things get better overnight. It’s a process. Instead, you need to commit to taking action. To trying to make your marriage better, or to be calmer, or to find happiness. You then need to think in the moment and stop yourself from falling into old habits or patterns. And then, you need continuously assess how you’re doing. By being present and committing to working on this, you should find that change does come quicker than you may have first thought!
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